I have a lot of ups and downs when it comes to practicing good self care. One thing that makes me feel better A LOT of the time is music, and feeling seen/heard/understood by the art that other people create. That feeling of like, woah. That person articulated something I've felt so many times in such a beautiful and concise and interesting way.
So here are five songs that help me in my self love thing. I hope you enjoy them.
1) Self Love Isn't Lonely | Kohinoorgasm
My friend Yoko invited me to a show that this artist played. This song in particular has stuck with me since the performance. "It feels like love, sitting in my room... It feels like love, texting my friends... It feels like love, doing what feels good. Whatever feels good. Doing what I think feels good."
2) Holy | Jamila Woods
Another song that a friend gave to me. The sweetest gift. These lyrics hit me in all the good spots, too. "Though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no love. Oh my smile, my mind, reassure me. I don't need no one. Woke up this morning with my mind set on loving me." So simple yet so powerful. A reminder I need so frequently.
3) Cranes in the Sky | Solange
"I tried to drink it away... I tried to work it away, but that just made me even sadder... I slept it away, I sexed it away, I read it away. Away... I tried to let go my lover, thought if I was alone then maybe I could recover. To write it away, I'll cry it away... Away. Away. Away." A gorgeous reminder of all the things that get in the way. Solange is restorative.
4) Boss Ass Bitch | PTAF
Sometimes it's really just all about the confidence/mantras. On the days when I'm low, like, very low, I just gotta channel this confidence. I also love how this song preaches not giving an f what anyone else thinks. And it's just amazing to dance to.
5) Dancing On My Own | Robyn
Another infectious dance anthem. This song is a little bit focused on being scorned romantically but I think at its core it's truly about... dancing and being there for yourself. The pure anthemic joy of being alone but it also being okay. Robyn is my mf jaaaam.
And to cap it off, I also have this playlist SHINE BABY SHINE that I listen to when I need a boost. Keep being lovely. Things will be okay.